Children in mediation
Divorce and separation can have adverse effects on children's adjustment and future life chances. This need not always be the case. Our research findings and feedback from children who have experienced mediation with us, make it clear and simple about how important your children's voices are.
Your child's voice in mediation. Why involve children?
Research shows children want their voice to be heard about future arrangements arising from parental separation. This can be achieved by being offered the option of talking with a mediator.
Children from the age of around 10 and upwards can talk with a mediator in confidence and separately from you, to share their thoughts and concerns about arrangements that affect them now and in the future. They will choose what, if anything, is reported back to parents.
This is usually a one off appointment for which there is no charge. The reason there is no charge is that the appointment is offered for the benefit of children. Your mediator will discuss this with you in more detail.
Divorce and separation can have adverse effects on children's adjustment and future life chances. This need not be the case if parents consider the advice from children given below. The messages are clear and simple.
“We don’t mind if Mum and Dad do things differently, we can cope with different rules in different places.”
“We need to be close to both of you. This means….we like doing ordinary, everyday things with both of you – eating, playing, going to bed and getting up, going to school and watching TV.”
“Try not to argue in front of us but tell us what is happening & keep talking together about things that affect us.”